I’ve been finding it incredibly hard to focus. I’ve had much on my mind. I’ve felt “inspired.” I’ve felt almost incapable of talking about it at length or capturing it. I’m feeling myself discover an instinct for “later” or that my time, remotely free in any way, is too precious to meander through. This is an auto-pilot place. This is a place I otherwise tend very hard try not to occupy.
I’m in this place because I don’t find much of anything remotely appealing about my job and the ways I’m spending most of my time. This week, for example, I’ve been babysitting Y kids for 8 hours a day at “camp,” or, a gym area their parents leave them in all day. I’m not a kid guy. I don’t have some visceral feeling about them one way or another, but the facts about kids just don’t appeal to me. They’re gross, often very very dumb, and I get a level of internally shutting down and disenfranchisement when I have to repeat myself indefinitely in service to something I don’t really care about in the first place.
I’m at this job, truly, because it pays, and for no other reason. It barely pays. It’s an hour away from home. I drive there in a truck. When I’m not stuck at camp, the hours are less miserable, but I’m still marooned an hour away if I don’t want to wear my car down and burn that much more gas trying to go home. I’m also at this job because nothing in life has made sense for my entire adult one. My degree and education haven’t meant shit. My pay has never matched what I’ve contributed. My life has been a series of tactical decisions to try and emulate “normal” for someone of a middle-class background and above-average drive or intelligence, but I look like an arbitrary disingenuous slug who “chooses” one ill-fitting role after another to suffer.
Meanwhile, I’m gorging on information about, essentially, not just the decline of my country, but overall fall of man who can’t be bothered to swallow facts about it anymore than they will any other piece of nonconforming information. If I spend an hour listening to Leonard Leo point fingers and claim his magic sky-daddy thoughts are an intrepid march through history fighting back the strangleholds of liberalism…I have a lot of thoughts, retorts, instincts…and they all have stay bottled up so I can go inside and tell a 6-year-old to stop picking his nose for the 27th time.
I’m still the kind of person that can’t shut it off. I have to keep listening, learning, trying to wrap my head around the broader contexts and weigh them against what I think I can or can’t do within my own. I’m increasingly fascinated with language and how it’s used to justify abject atrocity and immorality. We lob the accusation of employing propaganda, but I see a much more specific pattern play out routinely colloquially.
Here, we’ll get messy. I want to start parsing out some ideas about what I perceive as a generalized habit for word-salad. I also want to speak to and highlight that, in this very moment, competing with the ability of me to do so is an array of things wholly unrelated to the task.
You can probably skip this paragraph. I’m listening to a new Linkin Park song. I’ve got 2 episodes of things to complete. I had to stop and shit. I’ve had a large hard-drive fail and have been experimenting with ways to revive it and/or back it up over the course of at least a week now. Without fail, I get several questions and topics I’d like to explore with an AI chatbot on my drives home. I want to keep looking for remote jobs. I have muscle tension I spent a long time driving a backbuddy into yesterday, and want to keep the war going. I’m itchy. I’m dehydrated and have no substantive food at home. My cat just left after insisting on attention. My head hurts a little. I’ll have tasks in Last War to complete in a couple hours. I need to complete The Last of Us Part 2 before the show starts back up. I want to search for missing pieces of my drum set, buy a bass, and several woodworking machines. My roof is falling apart. The weather is suggesting I could start back up with outdoor projects like a catio and my wood-pallet fence. I want to shower. I have a handful of dishes. I want to do some rearranging of my space. I need to put away laundry. I want to look up things to do this weekend. I have a consolidated debt payment looming. My cat just came back.
Okay, now the messy “serious” project. I’m intrigued by how often, be it the rich person, or the “crazy” person, conceive of themselves as fundamentally correct. That seems to be the first unifying thing. They’re talking with a confidence that no conscious being should ever possess. It’s what immediately puts me on edge when I’m listening to someone’s “grand theory of everything,” because that’s the next step. If they get asked about one thing, it becomes an answer about “everything.” “Yes” and “no” become the hardest words to ever pronounce, because that would betray the project and purpose of speaking altogether. That purpose, the third thing, is to keep things abstract and obscure.
“Expert” bullshitters do this as fluently as breathing. All it takes to be an expert is a propensity to keep talking. There is no end but yours. If yours doesn’t “make sense,” well, keep talking until it does, or you’ve worn down your opponent, or claim within your context It’s the most sense anyone has ever made about anything.
My hackles raise when certain words with certain characteristics get employed that really highlight this. Leo, reflexively, likes to blame “liberals” or “the left.” Anyone discussing politics does this as a matter of routine and regular discourse, but sometimes it’s used so pointedly that you get the sense someone has some deep personal slight they suffer by invoking their vague approximation of an enemy. When discussing consequences of who holds power or when, almost never, and I mean nearly never, do people talk about the specific incidents they believe indicate the drama and destruction or folly they’re crusading against. If, somehow, an example is used, it’s hyperbolic, incidental, and likely adjacent to their, seeming, broader point, but probably incredibly fuzzy on important details.
I think about when the shoe is on my foot. If I want to argue about “conservative” policy, I point to dead wannabe moms. That’s a kind of horror I don’t feel needs to be massaged into something “persuadable.” If you can’t wrap your head around that stupid, preventable, tragedy, I don’t think you’re someone interested in human morality or real conversation. I’m not going to make a sign and decry hypocrisy. I want you to sit within the death you create by pretending your position is less batshit than it is.
I know your sky-daddy is fickle and based on your feelings, not some shared reality we’ll all get to access the harder you push your dogma.
This is something that annoys me about The Free Press and “good faith arguments” between ideologues. They’re both doing the same thing, talking past each other with the same rhetorical flourishes disguised as expertise or evidence. And we let it pass because we don’t recognize or know how it works or how to speak better. They’re talking like us! They’re only saying things we either vehemently believe or don’t already! Bari tells you, if this conversation made you think, infuriated you, etc., write us and subscribe! The bitch knows what she’s doing, keeping the flame war alive, peppering in a reasonable person or two, and polishing her, “No no, I’m the reasonable middle!” crown until it blinds.
Caricature is a key component. Any time someone bemoans the “radical” or the “ist” and “isms,” you might as well shut your brain off. Individual actions and culpability don’t exist. Direct cause and effect can’t even be inferred. All you get are “historically” or “things” that “trend” or major institutional bodies taking the flak for the individuals and lobbyists that populate them. It’s one of the reasons I’m so enthused by the Atl National Parks people publishing everyone’s names fucking things up with DOGE. “DOGE” is an idiotic idea abused by both right and left to pretend it’s carrying out a reasonable idea. It’s an abstraction that is both boogeyman and savior, thus, it’s incoherent to invoke it. Tell me who it just killed, disenfranchised, or starved. Tell me the specific programs that might have, in fact, been corrupt and wasteful. “DOGE” doesn’t mean anything but what you want it to when you wish to argue with someone unwilling to hear you in the first place.
Materially, in spite of the “first-world” version of it, my whole adult life has been treading water. I couldn’t do less for myself and still have “just enough” to, if I were a normal person, “hope” and “hang on” and “get by” until my years of angst and resentment tickle me into laughing way too hard and with a painful growl for fascism. My country is in severe decline. The voices tasked with describing the hows and why are woefully inadequate. Modernity in its messaging and technology compounds our problems with communication incalculably.
I can’t save, because my car will shit the bed, or pipes explode, or I’ll get sick, and that money will be gone instantly. In the meantime, I’ll develop whatever you wish to call the complex of spending too much time alone eating ramen noodles is. I’ve somewhat gone the other direction in trying to indulge while my time is short, and that’s proven useful for coping, but doesn’t alleviate the fundamental state of existence. I will never see enough concerts to feel good about not getting paid enough for my time, effort, and experience. I will never listen to an hour or two of someone playing apologetic games for their power, our self-destruction, and myopic disregard for shared reality.
I can’t build, often because I need to spend that vast majority of the time it would take to do so to make money. What I do build is rough because I don’t have conditions that would allow me to become a master. What I don’t want to do is develop a resentful complex about the things I build, because they are direct evidence of a capacity that is otherwise hidden or muted.
I can’t play, because I don’t feel the spirit of it. Sure, I’ll play a game with the kids or something. I don’t want to. I’m not having fun. They’re not doing it right or even trying. I’m not even really contributing because they’re kids, I can, and have, hurt them accidentally but turning it up to 3% of what I might with an adult. Or what about music? How many songs do you need to hear about being bored, tired, and uninspired? Wanna hear me
almost nail riffs and just-not-quite produce the vocals correctly? I can add a $99 40−hour production course and $5,000 lessons with Gaga’s touring guitarist to the things I’ll never buy or have the time for.
I bought 4 more videogames a few weeks ago. It felt like an act of rebellion. I made
some money, dammit! I can spend it! I can spend it on 4 games for 4 different systems, and yes, I own all these systems! How many cunts walk out of this Disc Replay with 4 different games from 4 different systems!?
I’m a unique wasteful idiot!
My life gets reduced to little snapshot incidents like that, mostly around me spending too much for food. I’ll add up everyone that’s been lingering on Amazon and see if I could
technically afford it. That’s partly what got me into debt trouble a couple years ago, but after getting to the edge of getting out, I doubled down and spent the debt-money trying to hire people for fundraising/grant writing, building my counseling website, and fees to stay registered and legit.
My along-for-the-ride activity is definitely TV, so now that I’m in the midst of this drive that’s crashed, a hundreds-of-dollars replacement is feeling both vital and necessary to maintaining one of the most reliable and persistent copes/hobbies I have. It would mean, like spending any amount of money always means, that I couldn’t buy anything but gas and food for 2 weeks again, but what else is new? Here, I begin to wonder how many new bank accounts I could open for the $100 to $300 they often offer after you get 2 direct deposits. Because this is how you think when you’re first-world-in-decline poor.
I don’t like that tomorrow is Friday, and every day I’ve worked, even as I’m cursing circumstance as I leave my car and walk to the door, each day has felt “easier.” It’s only because it became familiar. I know which kids are shittier than others. I know what is or isn’t expected of me each hour. I know, eventually, some small amount of money is coming, even if it’s already spent. I can’t get the time back, so there’s something in being able to mourn it that’s more reassuring than suffering its alleged potential.